My Story – Change Has Always Been Part of My Life
Having lived, studied and worked in different countries, I know that change can be both exciting and challenging.
I grew up in Romania, came to Germany to study German literature in Düsseldorf, spent one year in Italy as a PhD student and worked in Brussels at the Euopean Commission. My professional journey has taken me through different fields, including education, science and project management.
Before I became a couples counselor, I worked for 15 years as a project manager in science and industry and guided complex change processes.
These experiences have shaped how I understand people, relationships and change.
Moving to another country, building a career or entering a new stage of life often means questioning familiar roles, expectations and ways of relating to others. What once worked may no longer work. Access the whole story behind becoming a couples counselor here.
Today, I combine these experiences with my work with couples. Because relationships are change processes too. They evolve when people, roles, careers, and life phases change.
Réka Török
Professional Training
My work is primary informed by the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, developed by Dr Ellyn Bader and Dr Peter Pearson at The Couples Institute in California and the relational work of Esther Perel and Julie and John Gottman.
This approach understands relationships as a process of ongoing development. As individuals grow and change, couples need to find new ways to balance their personal needs with their shared life.
My role is not to decide who is right or wrong, or to tell you how your relationship should look. Instead, I help you understand what happens between you and develop the skills to make meaningful changes.
You don't need to be in crisis to benefit from couples counseling.
Sometimes, the first step is simply recognising that the way you've been dealing with things is no longer working.
I offer couples counseling in English and German in Düsseldorf and online.
If you're curious about how we might work together, I invite you to get in touch.
Relationships in a Changing World
Our relationships do not exist separately from our professional and personal lives. Career ambitions, relocation, parenthood and changing expectations about partnership can place considerable demands on couples.
This is particularly true when both partners pursue demanding careers, when a family relocates internationally or when partners come from different cultural backgrounds. In these situations, couples often need to renegotiate roles, responsibilities, priorities and expectations.
My international background and professional experience have made me particularly interested in how couples navigate these transitions – and how they can continue growing together without losing themselves as individuals.
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