Recommended Reading on Couples Relationships for Self-Help and Reflection
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Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson with Judith D. Schwartz Tell Me No Lies. How To Stop Lying To Your Partner - And - Yourself - In The 4 Stages of Marriage
New York: St. Martin's Press, 2000
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Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson In Quest of The Mythical Mate: A Developmental Approach To Diagnosis And Treatment In Couples Therapy
Milton Park: Routledge, 1989
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John Gottman and Nan Silver What Makes Love Last? How To Build Trust And Avoid Betrayal
New York: Simon & Schuster Paperbacks, 2012
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John Gottman and Nan Silver The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work
London: Orion Spring, 2023
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John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman And Baby Makes Three. The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives
New York: Three Rivers Press, 2007
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Stan Tatkin Wired For Love. How Understanding Your Partner's Brain And Attachement Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict And Build a Secure Relationship
Oakland: New Harbinger Publications, 2011
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Stan Tatkin We Do. Saying Yes To a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, And Enduring Love
Colorado: Sounds True, 2018
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Winifred M. Reilly It Takes One To Tango. How I Rescued My Marriage With (Almost) No Help From My Spouse and How You Can, Too
New York. Gallery Books, 2027
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Gary Chapmann The 5 Love Languages
Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 2019
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Diane Poole Heller The Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships
Louisville: Sounds True, 2019
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Julie Schwartz Gottman und John M. Gottman Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connection
New York: Harmony Books, 2024
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Esther Perel Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
London: Harper Perennial, 2007
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Esther Perel The State of the Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity - a book for anyone who has ever loved
London: Yellow Kite, 2019
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Janis A. Spring After the Affair. Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful.
New York: HarperCollins Publishers, 1996
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Dr David Schnarch Intimacy and Desire. Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship
Evergreen, Colorado: Sterling Publishers, 2019
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Tom Bruett The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men. From Honeymoon to Lasting Commitment
London: Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2025
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Terrence Real Reconnect with Your Partner and Build a Loving and Lasting Relationship
London: Penguin Books, 2024
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Lauren Smith Brody The Fifth Semester. The Working Mom's Guide to Style, Sanity & Success After Baby
New York: Vintage Books, 2018
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Jennifer Petriglieri Couples That Work: How Dual-Career Couples Can Thrive in Love and Work
London: Penguin Life, 2019
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Emily Nagoski Come Together. The Science (and Art) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections
London: Vermillion, 2026
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Julie Menanno Secure Love. Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime
New York: Simon Schuster, 2024
Useful Weblinks on Couples Relationships for Self-Help and Reflection
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Blog article What is your love language?
In this blog article you will learn about the different type of love languages that partners might have.
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Video How to banish negativity from your relationship
Short and very clear explanation by couples therapists and researchers Helene and Harville Hendrix about the dos and don'ts in a relationship.
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Video The handmodel of the brain by Dr. Daniel Siegel
Dr. Daniel Siegel uses his hand to explain the structure and function of the brain.
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Video Differentiation in relationships
Interview with Dr. Ellyn Bader about the gift of differentiation in relationships.
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TEDx Talk Relationships are hard, but why?
TEDx Talk with Dr. Stan Tatkin about the prerequisites of a relationship: safety and security
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Video How to get more of what you want
Video with Terry Real about how to get more of what you want in your romantic relationship
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Article When to end a relationship: How to know when it’s time to go
Article about knowing when to end a relationship
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Article Coming back from infidelity: How to heal affter an affair
Article about how to heal after an affair