My Approach to Couples Counseling

Understanding yourself. Understanding your partner. Growing together.

One of the things that fascinates me most about relationships is how two people can share a life and yet experience the same situations so differently.

We bring our own histories, expectations, emotional reactions and ways of dealing with conflict into a relationship. What feels natural to one partner may feel difficult or even threatening to the other. These differences are not necessarily the problem. Often, it is how we respond to them that creates distance.

In couples counseling, I help partners become aware of these patterns, understand their own contributions and develop new ways of relating to each other.

I believe that learning to stay connected while being different is one of the most important relationship skills we can develop.

Réka Török

Ways to Work Together

Every relationship is different, and so are the reasons couples seek support. Whether you're facing recurring conflicts, navigating a major transition or simply want to strengthen your relationship, we can explore which format best suits your needs.

Individual Counseling

Sometimes, you may want to explore relationship-related concerns on your own.

Individual counseling can help you gain clarity about your needs, understand your own relationship patterns or reflect on difficult decisions.

You are welcome to attend individually, even if your partner is not ready to participate.

The individual session includes the following:

  • 1-hour individual session
  • 1x60 minutes

Couples Counseling

Every couple develops patterns of interaction over time. Some bring partners closer together. Others leave them feeling misunderstood, criticised or disconnected. These patterns can become automatic, even when both partners genuinely want things to improve.

In our work together, we explore what happens between you, what triggers your reactions and how each of you contributes to the dynamic. The aim is to help you understand the relationship dynamic that you have created together and how you can begin to change it.

The couple counseling includes the following:

  • 1,5 or 2-hour session
  • 1x90 or 120 minutes

Couples Intensives

For couples who want to step away from everyday distractions and focus intensively on their relationship.

Over two days, we take a closer look at your relationship history, recurring patterns, areas of conflict and individual expectations.

Together, we identify what keeps you stuck and work on new ways of communicating, managing differences and reconnecting.

Experience shows that intensive sessions can jump-start change faster and more effectively than weekly meetings, helping you elevate your relationship to the next level.

The intensive couples counseling session covers the following:

  • 12-hours intensive session (in-person at my practice)
  • 6 hours per day
  • with one hour lunch break

Relationship Workout - Strengthening Your Emotional Muscles (20 session pass, 20% discount)

We invest time in our physical health, professional skills and personal development. Yet we often expect our relationships to work without much deliberate practice. But relationship skills need attention and training, too.

The Relationship Workout is a structured counselling format designed to help you practise emotional awareness, communication and conflict resolution.

Through guided exercises, reflection and practical tools, you learn to recognise unhelpful patterns and respond to each other more constructively.

The 20-session pass includes 20 sessions of 120 minutes each. When booking the pass, you receive a one-time 20% discount.

  • 20 sessions of relationship workout
  • 20 × 120 minutes

Relationship Workout - Strengthening Your Emotional Muscles (10 session pass, 10% discount)

We invest time in our physical health, professional skills and personal development. Yet we often expect our relationships to work without much deliberate practice. But relationship skills need attention and training, too.

The Relationship Workout is a structured counselling format designed to help you practise emotional awareness, communication and conflict resolution.

Through guided exercises, reflection and practical tools, you learn to recognise unhelpful patterns and respond to each other more constructively.

The 10-session pass includes 10 sessions of 120 minutes each. When booking the pass, you receive a one-time 10% discount.

  • 10 sessions of relationship workout
  • 10 × 120 minutes

What to Expect in Couples Counseling

I’m here to support you with relationship-related challenges. Please feel free to reach out using the contact form or phone.

Couples counseling (couples therapy) are private services and are not covered by public health insurance.

The consultation fee starts at €165 per 60-minute session.

  • 1. Get in Touch

    Send me a short message through the contact form, briefly describing what brings you to counselling. You don't need to share every detail at this stage.

  • 2. Introductory Conversation

    We'll arrange a brief video call to discuss your situation, answer initial questions and explore whether working together feels like a good fit.

  • 3. Getting Started

    Once we've agreed on a suitable format and appointment, I'll send you the relevant information about preparation, payment and next steps.

  • 4. Working Together

    Our sessions focus on understanding your relationship dynamics, developing new skills and translating insights into everyday life.

    From experience, you need at least 10-12 sessions of 120 minutes each to initiate meaningful changes. I've been working with some couples for 1.5 years.

  • 5. Cancellation Policy

    You may cancel a paid appointment via email up to 48 hours in advance and reschedule. Rescheduling is allowed only once. If a new appointment isn’t arranged within four weeks, the booking will expire.

     

Frequently Asked Questions

Before you get in touch, please take a moment to read through the questions.

What is the difference between couples counselling and couples therapy?

The terms are often used interchangeably, although their professional and legal meanings vary between countries.

My work focuses on relationship dynamics, communication, conflict resolution and personal development. Couples counselling is not a substitute for the diagnosis or treatment of mental health conditions.

Do we need to be in crisis to seek couples counselling?

No. Many couples seek support because they want to improve communication, navigate important decisions or prevent recurring disagreements from becoming more serious.

You don't have to wait until your relationship reaches a breaking point.

Can I attend without my partner?

Yes. Individual relationship counselling can be helpful if you want to better understand your own reactions, gain clarity about your relationship or explore your options.

How many sessions will we need?

That depends on your goals, the challenges you're facing and the progress you make. Some couples seek support around a specific issue, while others benefit from a longer process.

We can discuss a suitable approach during our initial conversation and review your progress along the way.

Do you offer couples counselling in English?

Yes. I offer couples counselling in English and German, in person in Düsseldorf and online.

I also work with international and intercultural couples, expats and partners navigating career and family transitions.

How much does couples counselling cost?

Sessions are privately funded and are not covered by German statutory health insurance.

Fees start at €165 for a 60-minute session. Package discounts are available for the Relationship Workout.